One of my dearest friends recently gave me a bracelet that has the word Faith printed on it.  It was her way of reminding me to have it and keep coming back to it.

I treasure her gift because faith is something I have grappled with for as long as I can remember. In fact, this post stems from my acknowledgment that I need it now more than ever and I am really just starting to know what it can feel like to embody it.  

So, why talk about faith at all? Well, because to be resilient one really does have to have it.

When the unexpected happens, whether on a large or small scale, we must have something to keep us anchored. We need to feel tethered to the essence of who we are, what we are made of and what we know to be true, even if there is no evidence of it at the moment. We must have FAITH.

Faith can be hard because we want certainty; we want to know what the future holds and we often feel like the only way to do that is through control. I can tell you it’s a misguided approach at best because we can’t really control the things that happen in our lives. We certainly can’t control the people in our lives, we can only be in control of our responses.  We can set outcomes, create goals and take action, and at some point, we do have to let go and just have faith. It is that whole “letting go of attachment” thing.

As a practiced control freak and a novice to the art of faith, I have always admired people that seem to have it, and in my observations of them, here is what I have witnessed and what I am beginning to learn and integrate myself.

Faith often asks us to put our confidence and trust in things that are unknown and unseen.  

It asks us to have a deeply visceral and inner knowing that isn’t based on or acquired by reason, logic, or evidentiary proof.

Faith takes courage because to have it requires a congruence that is unshakable.

Faith is not the absence of doubt but an acknowledgment of it, and a return to what we know to be true at the very core of who we are even if we can’t see it, hear it, or feel it at the moment.

Bottom line, my takeaway is that faith requires trust and surrender, both of which can feel really vulnerable. But once you do allow yourself to loosen your death grip of control and say yes to faith, everything begins to feel easier. You begin to co-create with the universe and the part of you that is your connection to source. You realize that it was just your ego that felt like it needed the control and that you are actually divinely held and guided. Everything actually is unfolding for you in exactly the right way.

So, dear one, what is your relationship to faith? How can you bring more of it into your life? What could you relinquish control of an attachment to? What would it feel like to you to have faith?

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From my heart to yours…

With Aloha,



Pegah Kadkhodaian

Author Pegah Kadkhodaian

Pegah has been in the world of personal, professional, and spiritual development for over 20 years. She has a background in yoga, mindfulness, Neurolinguistic Programming, Huna and Theta Healing Her life's passion and personal mission statement is to uplift, inspire, and empower women by guiding them to access their inherent gifts and wisdom. Her whole hearted intention is to facilitate and guide people to discover their inherent value and worth, and as such to harness their profoundly resilient nature. She feels deeply honored and privileged to be called to this work.

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